Now you might be thinking “Special gifts? I don’t have any unique gifts or talents” or “Why does this matter, no one would be interested in what I have to offer” “Who would want to read my book, listen to my song or listen to me speak?”
Well I’m here to tell you, you absolutely do have special gifts and you were created to make a difference. Yes you!
If you are squirming in your seat, feeling awkward and thinking this is a waste of time. It’s perfect! This is exactly where you need to be. I promise you the resistance you are feeling right now is normal and it will pass. It is simply an unconscious, defensive reaction to the idea that you might end up thinking or doing something differently – but isn’t that exactly the reason why you are here?
When we start to make powerful changes in our lives it is very common for resistance to show up. So when it does, acknowledge it, embrace it, and send it love – knowing that it is a beautiful sign that you are making the changes that you want in your life.
When you came into this world, you brought with you special gifts and talents. Our primary job here on earth is to share our personal medicine with the world in the grandest way that we can.
For many this is a daunting prospect – especially if you feel like you have no idea what your special gifts are or why you are here!
In order to reconnect to your true essence you must look inside. I promise you it is there, waiting for you. Waiting for you to clear your mind of all that is not you – the fears, the beliefs the desires and expectations of others, all the negative stories you tell yourself, the defeatist attitude that constrains you and your vision for the life your highest self wants to live.
I am going to share with you seven self discovery processes that have helped me to get clear about my life purpose. I have shared these exercises with thousands of people over the years. They really work, and they can work for you too. BUT they do require you to put in the work. As with most things, you can only get out what you put in.
So let’s begin.
7 Coaching Exercises To Remember Your Special Gifts
1. REVISIT YOUR CHILDHOOD
If you’ve ever done any personal development work you will be familiar with this concept. That’s because it works. Think back as far as you can, ideally to your preschool years if possible. Think back to times when you weren’t influenced by peers or your fears, when your parents’ expectations of you didn’t go beyond you playing safely in the park. What did you like to do? Was it playing shop? Drawing? Dancing? Finding bugs in the garden? What activities or experiences created the greatest memories? What was the most fun? The common thread in there is a message that, with a little reinterpreting to fit your adult world, will propel you down the path toward your unique gifts.
2. LOST IN TIME
Think back to the last time you completely lost track of time? What were you doing? Are there activities that you find so engrossing that you don’t think about time, eating, or sleeping? Do you have these experiences at work? Do your hobbies and leisure activities fall into this category? These moments of lost time will point you towards areas of strong interest and deep passions, and will lay down another key stepping-stone on the path towards stepping into your light and remembering your unique gifts.
3. ASK OTHERS
The people closest to you get to see you in ways that you just can’t see. Today ask at least 3 friends, family members or co-workers to share with you what they see as your special gifts and talents. You can ask them “What makes me unique? What do you think I do particularly well? What is my strongest skill or characteristic?” They may not nail your unique gift, but they will offer many clues. Once you have your answers sit with them and journal about how their answers, and even doing this process made you feel.
4. CREATE SPACE
Sometimes our lives are so full that we actually don’t have any space for a new perspective, insight or growth. How can you create some room in your life so that you have the opportunity to gain a new perspective? By answering this it will help you determine the general direction you should be moving in, which will then lead to a more defined path, and eventually your own personal trail, blazed with your unique gift. How can you remove the clutter from the activities, people and things that keep you from having space to step into the brightest version of yourself?
5. GO SOLO
This is the extreme of creating space. If you find creating space in your daily life difficult, or if you have created space and are ready to go to the next level, go solo for a day, a weekend or a week. Go camping, find a cabin, an empty beach, go sailing — be alone, just be with you. No distractions. Start listening. After you overcome the fear of being alone with yourself, you will start to hear.
Take some time today to journal on rising, in the middle of the day and before you go to bed. Write down your observations, intuitions, feelings, revelations, opinions, insights and challenges. Is there a pattern? Look for the common thread that represents areas of strong interest, honesty regarding feelings, awareness of special skills, and a natural draw toward certain people, places, and purposes. If you need clarity around your true essence and your unique offerings i recommend that you continue this process for the next 21 days.
7. FIND YOUR PASSION
Imagine that you are asked to give a 3-minute talk about what gets you excited on the evening news. This spotlight will be your legacy, the imprint you leave on the world. What would you talk about?
Things you are passionate about are not random. They are your calling. Write your speech and notice what comes up, you may be noticing a consistent theme that is now shining through. Keep an eye out to ensure that you are writing from your authentic self and not your metal mind. Our minds tend to want to do what it thinks others will want to hear or expect, so don’t be surprised if you have to come back to your heart space, and your higher conscious, several times during this process.?