Self acceptance is loving yourself exactly as you are. It is a journey that we all must take if we want to live a life that we truly love.
You see in any given moment, you are either accepting or rejecting yourself. You always have a choice to be loving, to treat yourself with kindness and compassion, or to choose rejection, judgment and disdain. Unfortunately, most of the time we tend to choose the painful option.
When you do not accept yourself, in all your divinity, your strengths and your weaknesses, your physical body, your circumstances, your personal experiences, it is impossible for you to step into the fullness of who you are. It sucks the life out of your dreams and strips you of the joy that is your birthright.
The problem with self-judgment is that it’s so readily available. If you are not berating yourself for not doing something perfectly, then you are probably assuming that someone else is judging you for your imperfections.
Every single one of us has experienced emotional events that have plugged us into the collective consciousness of “I’m not good enough,” “I’m not worthy,” and/or “I’m not loveable.” These three thoughts are our constant companion.
It is the powerful combination of these hidden emotions that fuel our negative thought patterns and consequently control our live’s. It’s a lethal cycle. When you take a look back on your life, it is highly likely that similar themes or situations have shown up. Your natural reaction may have been to sharply judge yourself – I should have known better, I could have done …, I didn’t do enough. If only … Now you find that even silly things, like taking a wrong turn or forgetting to pick up some milk, make you feel like you are not good enough.
These patterns are part of your personal growth journey. They have been pointing to the thoughts, people, and situations that you need to let go of, so that you can evolve and tap into your full potential.
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An Invitation to Go Deeper
We have all experienced times when we can’t stop our hurtful thoughts. For days, weeks, months or even years no matter how hard we try we simply cannot stop the same damaging words playing out in your head. In those times, our thoughts are trying to get our attention. They are there to show us another layer for us to explore—an invitation to go deeper and an invitation to love ourself more.
The power of embracing self acceptance is that it provides the codes to step further into love. Self-love. To accept ourselves exactly as we are.
So how do you accept yourself as you are?
In the moments when you are confronted by thoughts that are not supportive or loving, remember that you are being given another opportunity to embrace your whole self.
Once you accept yourself for all of your strengths and weaknesses, your assets and flaws, there is no room for shame or self-judgment. When you are willing to be brave and excruciatingly honest with yourself, your self-judgment will lose its grip on you. All that’s required is that you take the first step. And then another. And another.
The power of embracing self acceptance is that it provides the pathway to step further into love and living the life that you know you were born to live.
6 Simple Exercises To Help With Self Acceptance:
1. Take One Step At a Time
You are awesome! A magnificent expression of life. To support you in seeing and feeling this, I invite you to identify one positive action that you can take to support you to move away from the image of who you think you need to be so that you can simply be the amazing person you already are.
2. Open Your Heart
Write down 10 ways that you are not currently being loving to yourself. Then go back through your list, take a look at each point, and imagine what would happen if you loved every single one of your supposed flaws. Write down exactly how your life would be better and how it would change the lives of the people around you.
3. Be of Service
When you lovingly give to others, you get to physically see how you positively contribute to other lives, your community, and the world at large. Find a cause that you are passionate about and volunteer your time. It becomes increasingly difficult to maintain the belief that you are no good, useless, or bad when you see how your actions can enrich and transform the lives of others.
4. Make Success Lists
When you believe that you have failed at something, it can be difficult to remember your brilliance. To combat this make a list of all of your successes. Don’t hold back! Make sure that you include all of the goals you’ve accomplished, all of the connections you’ve made, challenges you’ve overcome, and all of the lives you’ve touched for the better. Keep the list close by and review whenever you need a reminder of how great you really are.
5. Send Blessings to Your Body
We tend to take our bodies for granted. When was the last time you thanked a part of your body that you use every day? Have you ever? Every part of your body deserves a little attention. Starting at your head, take a moment to be present to the miracle of each and every part of your body. Send it love and blessings and feel the energy as it moves through your body.
6. An Attitude of Gratitude
Adopt an attitude of gratitude to everything you experience, including any judgmental thoughts. If you feel like you’ve failed somewhere, pinpoint something about that situation that you can be grateful for. For example, you might feel like you failed at fulfilling a project at work. Rather than allowing the thought process to end there, take it a step further and identify the gifts or lessons you received from being involved in the project.
About: Rebecca Jackson is a purpose-driven entrepreneur, empowerment coach, international speaker and author of You’re Not Alone: A Practical Guide for The Awakening Soul. Over the years, she has guided thousands of people, to connect with their true self and become the person they most want to be. Rebecca is also a doTERRA Diamond Leader and the founder of Ora Leaders.